We have got to stop wasting our precious few moments in life optimizing our clothes and bodies to be fashionable. It is a disgusting waste that serves nobody.

I’m not going to go out there and pretend that beauty doesn’t matter. Obviously, it does: People will respect you more and give you unfair advantages in everything. When it comes to the details, though- e.g., wearing eyeliner fashionably or not, or pruning split ends vs. not, I’m going to start by leveling: Most people do not care. Men and Women in my life both generally do not care. It’s not, like, a gender line thing. The only people who DO care about beauty details are:

• Loathesome and hateful people, who will always find a way to be vile no matter WHAT beauty steps you take.
• The wealthy, whose self worth is heavily contingent on the time they waste on what they’d call decorum.

You can’t waste your energy working about pleasing those people. Trust me, I have, and getting even momentarily into their good graces provides absolutely no reward. Spend your energy instead on people who matter, doing things that matter. Don’t fall into the same trap that I did.